What define us?

Hey guys, long time no see. I wanted to make some post which would consist of my recent thoughts; I'm really philosophic and abstract type when it comes to thinking. I'm somehow just not as practical as the majority of people. As a result of that, I think all the time about abstract things or theories. 

A few days ago I was just listening to music while walking my path to University and kinda got confused (by people). People were everywhere, walking in very fast pace (they seemed to me like hunters). I have been always wondering what are their goals; I realize that we live in a world which requires very good and fast performance, but what are consequences? More stress, health issues which are linked to mental issues from constant pressure, no time for family, busy parents and stuff like this. I find it kinda wrong but I realize it probably won't change in a long time because that's how currently world works and people are not willing (the majority don't even want) to change that. Maybe it's because we, humans are focused too much on material objects instead of preferring something that can't be visible, although it's very valuable. I'm not trying to say those material things aren't necessary, we are humans with real, physical bodies and biological needs, but aren't we focusing too much attention to only one side of ourselves? I think it's important to take care of that spiritual/mental part of ourselves as well. We need to sometimes stop that fast pace and just try to explore our inner self. I agree that we need to learn and we need proper education, although we need to learn something about ourselves too; and that cannot be given by another individual. Only by ourselves. Thinking is important too; in recent time I just let my thoughts flow, without censoring anything, to see what are major issues in my personality. I didn't feel ashamed of anything and just talked with myself absolutely randomly. It might sound ridiculous, but it really helps. I discovered many things which I have been unable to identify for a long time. I recommend this for everyone who doesn't know how to define himself because I think that humans can't be identified as just name, number or anything physical. This goes beyond anything like that. 

The second topic I wanted to discuss is the book named Man's Search for Meaning by Frankl. I recommend this book for absolutely everyone because it supported my idea from my childhood that pain can lead to greater, positive results and personality changes. I don't wanna spoil the book, although I realized that what really defines us aren't just some personality traits or mental illnesses, tempers or anything similar (labels like a sociopath, psychopath, ADHD, extroversy-introversy etc.). What really defines us is how we act in that little freedom we are given in any situation. Why some psychopaths who feel no remorse are able to kill and others don't? Why some keep resisting and others don't? Why even "normal" people are capable of horrible things? There must be something more than countless personality traits what define us. It's like some inner voice (Freud would say it's our superego); I would call it some debate between our inner conscience and ourselves, our minds. It's still we who is in control. In any situation, we are still having at least a little freedom. Even in miserable conditions, we still choose our mindset and some of our actions. Those are things which can not be taken away. EVER. It's still we who create and define ourselves. We decide what we take from every situation, even, from people. That's why I have never taken drugs and never been drunk; never smoke; it didn't matter that I wanted badly belong somewhere and had friends who were doing all these stuff mentioned above. I still felt responsible for my life and actions I take. And I hope that every person can do the same. To decide according to themselves while listening to their inner voice. Until you are schizophrenic. Then you better don't (smile emoticon).